LIFE: SEX, BREAKUPS, AND THE POWER OF PATIENCE

Let’s get real, like really REAL…

Ok, Breakups first…

I know I don’t talk about my love life publicly much but moving forward I will do an update post here and there. So let’s get to this breakup. So my man and I broke up. Sad, I know.  I do and will always love him and he truly was an amazing guy but hey it is what it. Everything comes to an end and life happens…. But for the first time ever I’m owning up to MY part of the breakup and for once and for all I’m going to take a break from the constant dating and work on ME. Like REALLY work on ME. I refuse to be here again, my next relationship will be my last relationship…

OK, on to SEX, more like NO SEX…

So one of the things I will be giving up as I work on myself on top of meat and alcohol is SEX… Ok, let’s be clear, my breakup had NOTHING to do with sex. I mean we had GREAT sex, LIKE REALLY GREAT SEX, lol.. He was definitely hands down one of the best… So why am I giving up sex for a WHOLE year? Well, I am NEVER ever not in some type of relationships. I mean, I’m kind of sort of a serial dater. Once one thing ends I move on to the next. I never take time to heal, take time to reflect on what I want, need or deserve moving forward. So hopefully taking sex out of the equation will help in this journey. It will give me TONS of clarity and I feel like if  I can do it for a WHOLE year I can do ANYTHING.  I don’t know what dating without sex is going to be like but I’ll guess we’ll find out soon. Sex is off the table for the entire year but I will be back dating as soon as I feel like I’m ready..  So here’s to celibacy, wish me luck, lol.

And on to Patience…

Well, one of the most important qualities one can have is PATIENCE. And I have NONE, none, like NONE. And that alone have been an issue in EVERY relationship I have ever been in. I think if I had just a little more patience I wouldn’t be so quick to go off, jump to conclusion, I would be a lot calmer when I hear something I don’t like and OMG I would know how to control my emotions. Once things go south I go through like 100 emotions within MINUTES and I tend to act on ALL those emotions at ONCE. Now imagine dating someone like that, ha, lol…. YUP, that’s the MAIN thing I’m working on while on this self improvement journey. I want to be able to keep cool, calm and collected in EVERY situation. If I need to walk away from the situation at the moment, be it. If I need to sleep on it, be it. If I need to shut down my phone and disconnect from EVERYTHING and every one, be it. I am more than determine to get a hang of every part of my life and I most certainly will NOT allowed temporary emotions/feelings, and lack of self control to control me, cost me love, success and true happiness.

Tools…

 Some of the tools and resources that are helping me in this self improving journey are of course PODCASTS, long unofficial therapy sessions with my friends, currently reading “The Wait” by DeVon Franklin & Meagan Good and of course the Bible…

Yea, lol, RANT.COM, lol. But for real I am super excited to enter this new chapter of my life. 2016 I did a lot of unpacking of my issues and 2017 I will spend the ENTIRE year working on ME. Listen, I can’t stress enough the importance of being 200% REAL and brutally honest with yourself. So PLEASE find out what it will take to be the BEST version yourself and truly be successful in every area of your life.